Discovering My Style
When I was young, my mother, like many mothers, chose my attire for me daily. My only requirement was to put on what she selected. She bought the clothes she felt would look good on me and so forth.
As a teen, I hated shopping because she would always harp on how hard it was to shop for me. My feet were a size 12 and my arms were extra long, as were my legs. No one really looked like me and thus buying clothes and shoes for me could be very difficult. So I loathed shopping at all. Everything was more expensive for me because of my awkward sizes and the majority of everything had to be ordered via catalogs because they didn’t carry items for me in the stores.
Fast forward to a young adult and things didn’t change much at all. There were a few things in stores, but they all made me look frumpy and old. I could not find cute women tennis shoes in my size, I had to wear boys shoes. Like tall people had no class or style. So I totally withdrew from “dressing”, unless it was sweats, t-shirts/jeans, with men sneakers, and dresses for church.
At some point things began to shift, but by that time, I had absolutely no sense in style or what I really liked.
Then there was a season that God called me to skirts and dresses only and that made things really easy sort of. I just wore skirts and dresses, but many times there was still no class in what I wore, no style to say that’s “me”.
Now here I am 46 years old and I STILL hate shopping with a passion unless it’s for books or fabric and yes even groceries. I am hoping to embark on garment sewing in the coming months, but I don’t want to sew things just for the sake of sewing. I want to sew items that will be my predominate wardrobe. My problem…..I still don’t know what my style is. I know what colors I like and which ones look good on me, but my preferred style still eludes me. It actually makes me nervous to think about to be honest.
I still prefer to wear predominately dresses or skirts, I absolutely love the way they feel on my body and how feminine I feel when wear them. So I know my wardrobe will be majority skirts, tops, and dresses. I still love the comfortable aspect of t-shirts and jeans at times. And I enjoy an occasional nice pair of pants.
Is that all there is to determining your style?
I think not and I am at a loss as to how to go about finding me in this world of clothing.
I’m 46 and I’m a bit tired of being mistaken for someone’s grandmother….although I am NOW Boo Bears grandmother. LOL
I still feel young, yet I know I do’t want to wear the “hip” (is that even still a word used today, clothing the 20 somethings are wearing. I don’t want to be frumpy. I want to be classy like my momma was. I don’t wear make up and to be honest I don’t really want to. But I would like to dress nice on a daily basis and wear nice accessories with the occasional grunge look on the weekends.
Sigh….I think I need my sisters help. Missssssssssss where are you? Help your sister out!
If you all have any ideas of where to begin to discover my style, please do share in the comment section.
I’ll see you all sooner rather than later.